Dear Advy

Well-being | March 03, 2025

Giving but Drained

Dear Advy - I’m passionate about access to justice and take on pro bono work as often as I can.

Well-being | February 03, 2025

Zombie Lawyer

Dear Advy - I can’t turn off my brain at night to get any form of restful sleep. 

Well-being | January 06, 2025

Lawyer or Imposter

Dear Advy - I know that imposter syndrome is something many people in many different professions feel but regardless of me trying to use logic to shut down the ongoing narrative in my mind, I always feel like I don’t belong.

Well-being | December 01, 2024

Political Pressure

Dear Advy - They feel pressured to go along with this and it is really stressing them out.

Well-being | November 01, 2024

Refocusing My Practice

Dear Advy - I'm attempting to refocus my practice area and have been encountering a lot of resistance.

Well-being | October 01, 2024

Foggy Focus

Dear Advy - Any suggestions for a new lawyer on dealing with lack of focus?

Well-being | September 03, 2024

Missing the Mark

Dear Advy - I help run a Health and Wellness Committee at my law firm and lately, it is nearly impossible to get anyone to volunteer and join the group.

Well-being | August 01, 2024

Delicate Dilemma

Dear Advy - A fellow partner at the firm becomes uncomfortable when I mention wellness.

Well-being | July 11, 2024

Not Wanting to Rock the Boat

Dear Advy - I do feel as though I am treated a bit differently - working twice as hard as the other lawyers in my firm in order to prove myself.

Well-being | June 14, 2024

Blind to the Red Flags

Dear Advy - I guess my question is, what are the red flags I should look for in myself and colleagues that are going through tough times or bumps in the road.

Well-being | May 06, 2024

Pressured into the Office

Dear Advy - I thought we had more than proved ourselves over the pandemic, so I am puzzled at this perception. 

Well-being | April 02, 2024

Best Way to Say No

Dear Advy - I’m finding it difficult to set healthy boundaries.

Well-being | March 01, 2024

Solo and Looking to Chat

Dear Advy - I would love to reach out to other solo or small firm lawyers who are in a similar boat to myself but I’m not even sure how I would get started.

Well-being | February 02, 2024

Positive Peer

Dear Advy - I have an amazing team of colleagues that I work with, but I’ve started to notice that the group seems to get together a lot to gossip.

Well-being | January 11, 2024

Sick of the Secrecy

Dear Advy - What are your thoughts on taking mental health days?

Well-being | December 11, 2023

Being Bullied

Dear Advy - I feel as though I am being bullied at work--nothing overt but small acts of microaggression, gas lighting and the like. What should I do?

Well-being | November 01, 2023

Being Crisis Prepared

Dear Advy - It is one thing to offer help if you sense that someone is depressed or anxious but I’m pretty sure some sort of immediate action should be taken if someone threatens to commit suicide.

Well-being | October 05, 2023

Practice What You Preach

Dear Advy - Any suggestions on the best way to getting the higher ups to understand how important it is to take the mental health of their employees seriously?

Well-being | September 07, 2023

Where did I put my keys?

Dear Advy - I hate to admit it, but I am struggling with my age and dealing with my brain working a bit differently. 

Well-being | August 14, 2023

Needing Movement

Dear Advy - Any tactics or strategies you can recommend for a busy lawyer with no time to exercise?

Well-being | June 16, 2023

Joining the Conversation

Dear Advy - I often feel left out of conversations with anyone outside of my profession.

Well-being | May 12, 2023

Tired of Tech

Dear Advy - I’m not a technophobe but learning new software and multiple meeting platforms is costing me a ton of time which I am finding to be so stressful.

Well-being | April 17, 2023

Offering Support

Dear Advy - I’m hoping I can help point them in the right direction without crossing a line.

Well-being | March 13, 2023

Determined Managing Partner

Dear Advy - I’m wondering what the best way to get a pulse on how our lawyers are doing in terms of their wellbeing.

Well-being | February 09, 2023

Concerned About Confidentiality

Dear Advy - Are the mental health programs offered to lawyers truly confidential?

Well-being | January 13, 2023

Surviving the Grind

Dear Advy - I do not just want to survive my first few years and I do not want to burn out.

Well-being | December 06, 2022

Disheartened Job Seeker

Dear Advy - This has been totally crushing for me - I see my peers have reliable work and I don't know how I cannot find secure employment.

Well-being | November 10, 2022

Ready to Quit

Dear Advy - The long and the short of it is I just cannot keep up.

Well-being | October 04, 2022

Needing to Find the Balance Again

Dear Advy - I normally have been good at separating myself from these cases but lately I am having a hard time.

Well-being | September 07, 2022

Softening the Blow

Dear Advy - I would love your advice on supporting my clients and witnesses through the trial process.

Well-being | August 09, 2022

Burned and Burned Out

Dear Advy - What is the best way of dealing with workplace gender bullies?

Well-being | June 01, 2022

Articling Under Pressure

Dear Advy - How do I deal with the pressure of finding a position while not crumbling under stress…and debt?

Well-being | May 02, 2022

Unbalanced Home Life

Dear Advy - I do not want to fall behind, but I also don’t want to succeed at the expense of my family.

Well-being | April 12, 2022

Unsure How To Communicate

Dear Advy - I am not sure how to open this type of dialogue without coming across as though I am criticizing her performance.

Well-being | March 01, 2022

Office Bound

Dear Advy - Should we be looking to incorporate a hybrid work model permanently?

Well-being | January 10, 2022

Sick of the Slump

Dear Advy - How do I get beyond this slump and try to recapture some of the drive I had earlier in my career?

Well-being | December 01, 2021

Feeling Displaced

Dear Advy - How can I improve myself to make myself known in the local community?

Well-being | November 01, 2021

Overwhelmed and Unmotivated

Dear Advy - Long hours at my desk, close proximity to my fridge.

Well-being | September 07, 2021

Time to self-reflect?

Dear Advy - I am wondering how you know when an individual needs to reach out for help on mental health issues?

Well-being | August 03, 2021

Fearful For My Friend

Dear Advy - I like to mind my own business and have no interest in interfering with another guy’s marriage.

Well-being | July 02, 2021

Ready To Be Me

Dear Advy - My firm talks a lot about diversity, but I don’t think they have given any consideration to neurodiversity. 

Well-being | June 01, 2021

Private Professional

Dear Advy - I value my privacy, but I don’t need the additional stress of keeping this secret.

Well-being | May 07, 2021

Really Concerned

Dear Advy - He seems to be slipping mentally.

Well-being | April 01, 2021

Divorcing Lawyer

Dear Advy - I find myself over identifying with my client.

Well-being | March 04, 2021

Hating the Habits

Dear Advy - I find myself drinking more than I think I should be.

Well-being | February 09, 2021

Flying Solo

Dear Advy - I honestly feel like everyone is demanding something from me and nobody is prepared to help me.

Well-being | January 15, 2021

Struggling and Silent

Dear Advy - If I go to one of the partners about needing to take time off to deal with this, I think it will be seen as a sign of weakness.